I have been having alot of panic attacks lately because recently my guy friend has been talking to me about dating me and i have been trying to get out of one relationship that im in because hes abusive. I don’t want to be with anyone right now and it makes me go into panic mode.
the most important thing for you right now, is to take care of yourself – don’t concern yourself with this guy who wants to date you, if he is a friend, that’s okay, but right now, you have to heal your own self
get rid of the abusive guy – NOW – don’t even spend another moment risking your self – whether it’s physical, emotional, or any other, you don’t want it, you sure don’t need it, and it will only keep you in "panic mode" –
ok….think about things that can calm you – write them down – make a list – hope it’s a good long one –
taking a long hot bath?
petting a kitty or puppy (do you have one?)
listening to some instrumental music, like piano (try David Lanz)
writing in a journal?
sitting in a comfy chair by the window, in the sunlight?
doing your nails
just write down everything you can think of, that would relax you, or make you smile –
are there some people who you can talk to, that are reassuring and kind? do you have their phone numbers handy? write them down also.
now…make a "plan" – every day, give yourself one hour – it doesn’t matter when, but just that you do it – pick one of those things – start with the one you like the most! and promise yourself that you will give yourself that one hour, and do it – for yourself –
after you’ve done it, write down how you felt – try to be as specific as you can possibly be – pick exactly the right words, and write about it – describe every sense that you "felt" it with – sight, smell, touch, hearing, seeing –
…….
ok, now start using that book, where you’ve described those things, as your "tour book" – whenever you start to feel panic-y, choose one of your favorites, and lose yourself in re-living that experience – let your mind wander back to when you actually DID that thing, and re-enact every moment in your mind…..
(this is an exercise that I’ve used for years, myself – and it really does help – - i hope you will give it a little try – at first it may seem silly, but just go with it – and you will hopefully find that you can lead yourself OUT of the panic attacks
good luck