My Panic Attack Solution

I do not want to sleep with him because well he is mean…..ok let’s be real. He is abusive. Really! The way he treats me has transferred to the bedroom. i.e. if he calls me a fat bitch during the day I find it hard to be with him sexually. So we are separating. Ok here is the scenario, I was sleeping in the bed, he was in the living room. He apparently came in while I was sleeping, turned on the light, and started putting his fingers in my vagina. This scared the sh** out of me because I was sleep. I told him to stop. He walks out and slams the door. I get 4 hours of belittling and badgering about how awful I am. I am still up with panic attacks and anxiety. We have a 1 and 3 year old. wtf…I am tired and will be tired for them tomorrow too. I can not have sex with him just to please him. It is my body and I do not want to have sex with him. I will be moving out to my new place soon. Is this wrong?
yeah he has been abusive for a long time. It scared the crap out of me. He is abusive always has been. I am definately getting the hell out of here asap. Tried to stay for my kids but it’s crazy. I’ve turned to some messed up stuff to try to calm the pain of all the abuse. Got to get up out of here.

What he’s putting you through is wrong and i don’t blame you for leaving.
My wife had a baby in october and we haven’t had sexual contact at all
since 2 months after conception because i understand how she feels and
the need for her to rest and care for our children.
He is obviously self centered and insensitive to basically attempt to rape
his partner for sexual gratification. He needs counselling at the very least.

If your only option is to leave then i say do it, for your well being.. xXx

I’m so scared to drool at the dentist and to even admit when I’m in pain. I dont want them to think I’m a baby what can I do? I also dont wnat a mouth prop because I’m afraid it’s going to make me drool a little and I’m scared to have a panic attack.

Anyone know some dentists that treat in dealing with fearful patients and what is the whole thing about behavior management treatment during dental treatment. What is going to happen? I want to be awake I’m so afraid to be asleep.

Give me so good advice that will help me please. What do you think a dentist will think if you cry while there? How can I relax and stay relax while recieving treatment. Will they allow me to recieve treatment with out any medication?

Please answer all the questions I have it will really help me out.

You need to tell them right up front that you’re very nervous about the whole thing. They will tell you what they’re doing before they do it. Believe me you are NOT the first person to have these concerns with a dentist and they are able to cope with fearful patients. My Mom freaks at the dentist and the assistant will hold her hand while they work and talk to her. Why are you worried about drooling? They will use the suction to keep saliva controlled. That’s why it was invented! It’s small, it doesn’t hurt and it works very well. Take a mild relaxant before you go so you can be as calm as possible. Calms Forte (available at health food stores) is a wonderful product to calm you down and it’s non-narcotic and works quickly. Just take one or two before you go and it will relax you so you can deal with it. Believe me dentists have seen nervous, crying, even hysterical patients so don’t build it up in your head. It will NOT be as bad as you are afraid it will be. Take a deep slow breath and R E L A X . . . .

and do it again before you go!

Is there even a treatment? For me, it’s not a constant ringing, and my mom’s friend thought it might be my problem because her husband had it, but I’m seeing a specialist on the 22nd. I looked some stuff up about it, and it did say constant exposure to rock concert could cause it, and that’s me in a nutshell, haha.

It’s not the ringing that bothers me, it’s the way that I can’t be around arcades because the vibrations bother me. I can’t be in churches or movie theaters because the noise levels also get to me. I miss going to concerts, and I have one coming up on the 29th which I think would probably be my last if I were able to go without feeling lightheaded or having a panic attack because of the noise. I’m only 17, and I think I screwed my ears over going to so many loud concerts. Blah, this sucks.

Thank you letting people know just how much damage loud music does to young ears; it’s an increasing problem.

There are treatments (not cures) for tinnitus: some of the most promising seems to be exposure to white noise and pink noise, but some vitamin and mineral supplements are recommended too.

Here’s a link you might want to read:

http://www.causeof.org/hypera.htm#HyperTinnitusHyper

it is probably going to be a difficult question..i was engaged many years ago to a guy that was so wrong for me.i ended up in hospital with an ectopic pregnancy,all he wanted to do after the op was fight with me..nine years on i have long left him,have no children,but i feel all my life i have only went for certain types of people because of my desire to have children..all of my relationships have gone wrong..i am with my current fiancee a year and a half and he knows of what happened before..it’s just that i suffered a very bad drink problem after my ectopic and i have got a bad temper..he knows everything going on in my life right now concerning my job and family and that i suffer very bad panic attacks.he can treat me very well,spoiling me with small presents..but when he gets in a mood he will use everything he has against me..tell me how he hates to be with me,tell me he doesn’t want to have children or get married..and tell me i am a child for the way i am with the panic attacks.
it is just that i don’t want to waste my life anymore..i am thirty and i want to have a child but i am not even in a good relationship..i am really needing help here..i don’t know what to do anymore..if i didn’t have problems conceiving i probably wouldn’t be in this mess..as i am writing this..he walked out of the house hours ago and i don’t know where he is

Oh you poor thing. This man sounds pretty much like the child he is accusing you of being. But its difficult, I had a relationship for 15 years with a sweet lovely man, who had another side to him, a bully and a coward. I still feel for him, but he was making me bear the burden of HIS problems, blaming me for everything HE did. Everyone knows the man who hits his wife, and then says ‘why do you make me do this?’ but because you love the nice part of them, you sort of believe it when they do blame you. Is there anyway you can get away for a while, just to clear your head. If he KNOWS you are near to the end of taking any more of his behaviour, it may clear his mind too. It sounds like you are both mixd up, and maybe something needs to happen to make you both think straight. He probably hates himself for saying the things he does, and its done out of fear or panic or whatever. If you can both talk to each other about what scares you both, without getting into the blame game, you might find common ground. It sounds like he does care, you know, and buying little prezzies is a device he uses because he doesnt know what words to use to tell youhe cares. If I had one wish, it would be that all un happy people could be happy. I really hope you find some kind of peace soon.

When she tries to wake up it is very difficult for her, she often needs to get into the shower to wake up. She doesn’t want to go to sleep for fear of never being able to wake up. She does get nightmares and panic attacks during her dreams/sleep.
Also she has difficulty breathing at points during her sleep pattern. She tries, also, to move her body but cannot.

Please someone help!!!

She definitely needs to be evaluated at a sleep clinic- the breathing problems sound like apnoea, but the paralysis is symptomatic of a different sleep disorder. The difficulty waking up is probably just because she is never getting any real restful sleep.

There are a variety of treatments for sleep disorders- medications, hypnosis, even pressurized masks that keep air passages open. One or two nights of observation at a sleep clinic could really change her life.

Best wishes to both of you!

My doctor gave my Novo Venlafaxine to treat my anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. He started off giving me 35mg of the medicine, and to take it daily at noon. I noticed it made my mouth feel numb and to yawn frequently, making me feel as if I was gagging or about to vomit.

So I went back to him about 5 days later, as the previous ’side effects’ (yawning, numb mouth) went away, but I now faced something much more disturbing. I had severe difficulty swallowing. I was able to swallow liquids, but had a great difficulty swallowing any solid foods, and had been only been drinking water, milk, and eating soups.

So when I went there, he increased the dosage to 75mg. I’m not sure what this would do, and I’ve been feeling a bit anxious about it causing even more severe side effects as the 35mg made it hard to swallow.

Any ideas on how an increased dosage would help me?

+, I’ve only been on the medicine since Thursday, July 24th, 2009, and have just started the 75mg dose today (Wednesday, July 29, 2009).

Could this just be some side effects that will eventually wear off? And it would really help if those answering talked about their experience with the medicine as well.

Thank you in advance for answering.

I just started Effexor as well. I had really bad side effects for the first week or two including decreased appetite, dry mouth, etc. It’s now the end of my second week on the pills and side effects are slowly going away except drowsiness and weird sleeping patterns. You need to give it time to kick in but if you still have really bad side effects after one month then I’d say go to your doctor and switch antidepressants.

I’m 13 years old and I have panic attacks thinking that "my throats going to close up" and that "I can’t breath" and "I’m going to die" these are really bad and happen up to 4 times a day! How do I treat this?

I have an anxiety disorder, And If I get nervous bout anything, I get a panic attack and throw up, Feel dizzy, Feel ill, Shake etc…
Im getting counseling, And am on medication to stop the nausea.

Go to your doctor they should be able to advise whats best for you.

Good Luck, Hope I Helped

Now in 2009 I have been arrested for breaking a chair while I was trying to escape from the ER back in 2007. I have PTSD and suffer from severe panic disorder. I was in for a severe panic attack. They treated me, I was fine by 6:50pm and ready to leave. they kept saying they were waiting for tests results. Just a few minutes morre. My wife is terminal, she is at home, bedridden with the power out and a generator running. I came in at 6:09 pm less than 40 minutes later I was fine. I should have been released. At 10:30 a nurse came in and told me I was being committed for 30 days because I was suscidal. I was not suiscidal and I wasnt waiting for any tests. I was leaving to go home to my wife I didnt even see a chair I was heading for the exit. I tried to get to my truck but was too doped up from what they gave me in the ER. I was then forced back into a small room for 4 more hours held against my will again while the Midland mental health came to pick me up. And take me to the mental health. Where I was released the next day Christmas. The hospital er claimed I was suscidal yet I came in on my own saying help me I think I am having a heart attack, I feel as if I am dying. Does that sound suscidal? The hospital lost 2 hours of er notes and lied even about me not having a ride home with me. He is the same person who brought me in. At 7pm he could have driven me home so I could be with my wife and to celabrate Christmas with the family. But some nurse on a major power trip messed up everything. I complained to the hospital told them I would sue them. They did not make me pay almost 8000 in Dr. bills but have now had me arrested for breaking the chair and writing a nasty letter to the hospital telling them how I felt. Not a threatening letter a nasty letter. What do I do now I am facing 90 days in jail with no one to care for my wife over a 100$ chair I would have paid for if they would have let me know I even broke it. And by the way since 2007 because of what the ER did to me that evening I have lost my car, van home business am now on total disability and medications because I can not go out in public agoraphobia. And bankrupt. So you can be held against your will in ER.

This doesn’t make sense. Also…what is your question?

Try to keep it short I have been dealing with bipolar disorder scents I was a young kid with no meds…. panic attacks and anxiety (GAD and Social) came on later on and I had never said anything just ketp it all in trying to deal with it…Exercise mediation and singing songs helped for awhile but is loosing its effect and adding to the stress I want to seek treatment NOW before it gets any worse…. I don’t have a Dr to go see and talk to im sure I cant go to a immediate care center so how the hell do I get treated?? Try to find a random Dr?? wont he think that Im just out to get pills?? I know some crack heads do that shit I just want and need help…

So many people breathe thru only the upper part of their lungs, and this makes panic and anxiety worse. To see for yourself, lie flat on your back on your bed and place one hand on your tummy. As you breathe, note if your tummy rises and falls with each breath. If it does NOT rise and fall with each breath, then you are not breathing thru the bottom of your lungs, which is incorrect.

Train yourself to breathe so that your hand rises and falls with each breath. As you practice this, over and over, you will be learning correct breathing, which will be beneficial to your entire body. It will also help to stop the panic attacks.

You need to practice this all the time, until it becomes automatic. You can even practice doing this while riding in a car, sitting at a desk, or whatever. Best wishes to you, my dear.

Has anyone here dealt with a Hyperthyroid? I have been having very bad anxiety attacks, and like these real rushes of heat that run through my body, and my hands and feet get real clammy feeling. At first I was diagnosed with GAD and started seeing a therapist who put me on a few meds. The meds help as far as calming me down during these episodes, but she also recommended I get a thyroid panel.

Could all of this suffering of anxiety, also fatigue and lack of sleep be related to an over active thyroid? I’ve even noticed that my hair has become somewhat brittle, as well as my nails. I eat a lot, but don’t gain weight, but don’t lose any weight either.

I have an appointment with my PCP tomorrow, and will request a thyroid panel, but I wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this.

I am going to be so ticked off if I’ve been seeking therapy for something physical all this time. It’s been hell!

And if it is an over active thyroid, how do they treat that? Does it go away with treatment, or is it controlled with meds?

Thanks Everyone for your feedback..

I have a history of this condition. I am now the opposite, hypothyroid.
I will list some symptoms of hyperthyroidism: sensitivity to heat, excessive sweating, rapid heartbeat, heart palpitations, high blood pressure, inability to gain weight, weight loss, increased appetite, hair loss, tremors, depression, anxiety, fatigue. You may have trouble sleeping, or you may be so tired that you will want to sleep all of the time. You may notice changes in the texture of your hair and nails.
The thyroid is a butterfly shaped gland located in the front, lower portion of the neck. This gland’s main function is to regulate the body’s metabolism. It also affects the absorption of calcium in your body.
The thyroid panel will look for two major things: TSH (thyroid stimulating hormone) and T4, which is a thyroid hormone that is easily found in the bloodstream. TSH is secreted by the pituitary gland, and it basically gets the thyroid to do its job. If the thyroid is producing too much hormones, the TSH level will be lower, as the pituitary gland tries to get the thyroid to produce less hormones. Conversely, if the thyroid is not producing enough hormones, the TSH level will be higher, because the pituitary gland is trying to get the thyroid to produce more hormones. T4 levels will be checked as well, to see how much of the thyroid hormone is in the blood.
Treatment for hyperthyroidism: Longer term treatment may depend on the type of hyperthyroidism, and its cause. Treatment will usually start out with anti-thyroid drugs, such as Tapazole. This will cause the thyroid to slow down its production of hormones, and it may take time to get the thyroid levels just right. In the case of severe hyperthyroidism, radioactive iodine treatment may be needed. Iodine is a nutrient that is absorbed by the thyroid. Radioactive iodine will cause the secretion of thyroid hormones to end, and then the patient will take synthetic thyroid hormones, which have to be adjusted over time for the correct dose, for the rest of their life. Don’t let this scare you! My grandmother had this treatment for thyroid problems, and she is just fine.
I did not need radioactive iodine, even though it was discussed. My thyroid is slowly ‘dying’, and I am starting to need more and more hormones to keep my thyroid levels where they should be. I have a condition where my immune system attacks my thyroid gland.
When my thyroid was overactive, I took anti-thyroid drugs. As the dosages are adjusted, you will notice some changes, but overall, it is not too bad. I noticed that I gained weight easier than before, I felt colder and less sensitive to heat, my periods changed, and more. Sometimes I would feel tired, and I would report that to the doctor. I also had ongoing depression which was partially related to my hyperthyroidism. That little gland controls many things in your body!
Right now, don’t panic. Expect the doctor to perform some blood work, and it may take a week or two to get the results back. It depends on the practice. IF the doctor finds that your thyroid is overactive, you may be started on a lower dose of anti-thyroid drugs. As needed, the dose may be increased. You may be referred to an endocrinologist, which is a doctor that specializes in treating the glands in the body. People with diabetes see this type of doctor, too.
Good luck, you will be ok.