Hvaing a panic attack!?
Ok I just asked this question:
Ok well I was just in the parenting section and was reading a question that was titled "What type of child is cute?" And all these people said that younger kids are the cutest, like the "small and dainty" kids. Im 13 and not so small and dainty anymore. Now that I think about that, I feel really old and I feel like im gona cry. All I want and have wanted is to be loved by some (Im a little victum of child abuse) and I feel that only the cute, little kids get loved. Thats why I also think little kids get "saved" from their abusers and thats why kids around the same age as me and older are stuck where they are living and thats why they hate life and think there is something wrong with them. The freaking government thinks little kids are so innocent and should be taken from their home the first time they get hit, but when ive been hit since im 4, they leave me here untill im 18. They think if I have made it this long, I can last 5 more years. Im abused by my mom and that hurts because every little girl NEEDS a mom like on her wedding day or for her first prom etc, and I dont have that. Maybe id be able to get by with a big sister who loves me, but as luck would have it, im an only child. I cant go to people at school. Ive already tried that. They cant/wont help. My family is pretty small too so no options there…I just wish I was cuter so I could be loved by at least ONE person. Is there anyway to make me cuter or more loveable?
And I got this as one of the responses:
"You cant keep telling yourself that one day youll be beautiful and loved because it never works out that way" and now im upset and totally panicing.
People do not love others because they are "cute". I am sure you are "cute" in many ways. It is your low self-esteem that is making you feel unlovable and un-cute.
Of course little children are cute, just as puppies and kittens are cuter than grown dogs and cats. This does not mean that people do not adore and love their grown animals just as they do not stop loving their grown children.
You also need to stop playing the victim. Become a survivor and overcome your situations by not allowing the things that have happened to you control you. Victims stay victims; survivors overcome and go on with their lives. Overcome and move forward so you can be all that God created you to be.
If you have truly been abused (beaten, neglected, sexually assaulted. left alone overnight and/or for days on end, etc), then you can call Child Protective Services (CPS) yourself and make a complaint~or call the police. You do not have to rely on the school system. Get the help you need by being proactive. If you can write all this out on here, then you can make a case with the police or CPS and get the ball rolling to get you into a safe environment.
Okay, you are not getting married or attending the prom right now, so this should not be a worry at this time in your life. And yes, children need their moms, but you can find others who will mother you and become your mentors. You do not have a grandma or an aunt who can step in here? How about one of your friends’ mothers? A neighbor? A favorite teacher? There are many people in your life whom you can use as a surrogate mother for yourself. Find someone whom you can mentor with so that you will have a healthy relationship with a mother figure.
I am sure many people love you, but you are not aware of it because you do not see it. It is almost impossible for anyone to go through life without having people in our lives who care for us.
Get some help so you will be able to work this all out. I think you need counseling. Call CPS or the police and get the help it sounds like you need.
Good luck!
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Comment from Emily
Time January 6, 2010 at 3:19 am
This sounds fake?
If its not. Then whoa. you can go to people at school. If you go to a counselor or principal or teacher they are REQUIRED to help you out of an abusive situation.
everyone is akward feeling at 13. You will grow out of that stage. And if you start thinking of yourself as cute, your confidence will make you cuter!
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Comment from pigeonator
Time January 6, 2010 at 3:42 am
You sound like you need someone to vent to….Maybe a friend or guidence counselr & your beautiful, nomatter what you pysicallly look like, you sound like you have a great personality you just need someone to appreciate it. if you ever need someone to talk/vent to my email is pigeonz13@ymail.com
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Comment from Lilac
Time January 6, 2010 at 4:21 am
Just calm down! I’m sure your loved and people don’t just care about cute little kids. Once again CALM DOWN! Even if you can’t rely on your mother you always have a big sister. When I was 12 I felt rushed to grow up, but age is just a number, just because your a certain age doesn’t mean you have to act a certain way, remember that. 
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Comment from Hugs_And_Kisses_4_Free
Time January 6, 2010 at 5:10 am
Adults automatically adore little children more because they are vulnerable and so young and have a mind that still needs to be filled with knowledge and experience. There were hovering all over you when you were younger, but now that you’ve grown, the cuteness fades and is replaced by maturity. Be happy with yourself. Just because you aren’t an adorable toddler doesn’t mean you aren’t loved. Don’t be feeling depressed and stay confident. Hey, you loose your cuteness the older you get. Just look at my grandma. XD
And with your parents abusing you… I’m so sorry. If I was there with you, I would stand by you and help you through it. This isn’t a problem about cuteness and loss of love, it’s a problem about abuse. What you need is to get away and take a trip away from the world to unlock yourself, to heal yourself. Then you wouldn’t feel so under confident about not being loved just because you’re growing up.
I know I can’t really help you, since it’s over the internet, but you need to keep trying… find someone or something to make you feel happy. Join a sports team, club, somewhere where you can open up, make close fiends, and gets some support and help.
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Comment from Lori S
Time January 6, 2010 at 5:29 am
People do not love others because they are "cute". I am sure you are "cute" in many ways. It is your low self-esteem that is making you feel unlovable and un-cute.
Of course little children are cute, just as puppies and kittens are cuter than grown dogs and cats. This does not mean that people do not adore and love their grown animals just as they do not stop loving their grown children.
You also need to stop playing the victim. Become a survivor and overcome your situations by not allowing the things that have happened to you control you. Victims stay victims; survivors overcome and go on with their lives. Overcome and move forward so you can be all that God created you to be.
If you have truly been abused (beaten, neglected, sexually assaulted. left alone overnight and/or for days on end, etc), then you can call Child Protective Services (CPS) yourself and make a complaint~or call the police. You do not have to rely on the school system. Get the help you need by being proactive. If you can write all this out on here, then you can make a case with the police or CPS and get the ball rolling to get you into a safe environment.
Okay, you are not getting married or attending the prom right now, so this should not be a worry at this time in your life. And yes, children need their moms, but you can find others who will mother you and become your mentors. You do not have a grandma or an aunt who can step in here? How about one of your friends’ mothers? A neighbor? A favorite teacher? There are many people in your life whom you can use as a surrogate mother for yourself. Find someone whom you can mentor with so that you will have a healthy relationship with a mother figure.
I am sure many people love you, but you are not aware of it because you do not see it. It is almost impossible for anyone to go through life without having people in our lives who care for us.
Get some help so you will be able to work this all out. I think you need counseling. Call CPS or the police and get the help it sounds like you need.
Good luck!
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Comment from Danielle Y
Time January 6, 2010 at 5:52 am
First of all you are not a child you are a teenager and there is a big difference in the age group. You are comparing yourself to infants. You are in a group with teenagers now and I think that you should not judge a person by looks anyway. A person can be beautiful and have an ugly personality. If you keep yourself pretty and you care about how you look then there is nothing needing to be comparing. I think that your mom is emotionally unstable. She has personal problems and she is trying to take it out on you. If you want to you can report her. Just don’t run away from home. If you can, talk to your school counselor, teacher, and priest. You are adolescence. You are not the adult.
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Comment from William Munny
Time January 6, 2010 at 3:05 am
you have to love yourself before anyone will love you.
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