If a guy says that he’s into sex like it is in comic books, what does he mean?
He said he has always pictured it that way. Normal sex is really scary to him and he can only do it if it’s kind of violent. What are we talking about here? What is he into? Why? Can it change? He has a panic attack and freaks out if he tries to do it in a normal way. Why is he like this? Says he doesn’t like it to be "too real". What in the world is he talking about? The sad thing is I think we really kind of love eachother but because of this issue are not together. It’s sad and I don’t get it.
Sex for men is an agressive dominate state, it is mormal to feel some agression during sex for both sexes. The real issue here is why does this person feel as if it is cartoonish? You claim he has a panic attack and freaks out when he does it in a normal way, but that is very vague as many people do all sorts of things that could be described as kind of violent before, during, and even after sex. You ask a good question about "what is he talking about" as it doesn’t seem that he knows either. There are many sociophyscological problems out there when it comes to the taboo of sex, have you asked him what he means when he states these things? Personally i would want to know what he means by it is too real, why he has a so called panic attack when he tries to do it in a normal way, and a more personal question for you, have you looked his name up on the sex offender web site?.. I don’t mean to be crass but there seems to be a great deal of emotional as well as physical abuse that could take place with this person and even though some forms of abuse are general, i think this is a little out of the ballpark and very possibly manipulation that you shoud be very careful around. I would be the first person to say that sex is not love, but it is a very strong form within attachment, as you are not a cartoon and very real and this other person views sex with you or generally as a comic book i am forced to wonder whether you are in danger! As far as your part is concerned why have you attached to a person that within your intimacy allows someone to twist your feelings and satisfactions into this very false and seemingly very lonely place? I am glad to hear that you are no longer seeing this person intimately and i am sorry for your loss and the deep hurt that these seperations bring about, but don’t you think you will be more fulfilled with someone who doesn’t make you feel these ways? Normal in my book is a transparency of feelings when connected to intimacy, it is the give and take that come with all good forms of relating, yes domination is a normal part of sex but not without compassion and sensitivity that should come naturally when loving during intimacy. Good journey, and sorry about the spelling spell checker is out.
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Comment from Valerie’s boyfriend
Time January 15, 2010 at 3:02 pm
Tell him to have fun wacking off too is comic books then. Nah you should probably tell him to seek a pyschologist. I mean its ok to be a little kinky in that way its natural but you really need to examine the problem. You might be in danger. The human mind is a unexplainable thing. He probably grew up with some violence or just read 2 much comics.
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Comment from slush-omg
Time January 15, 2010 at 3:07 pm
sounds like psychosis.
ok, i’m exaggerating, but it seems like he’s been watching those monster rape scenes that are present in some animes? i wouldn’t recommend watching them. take him to a therapist, perhaps
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Comment from Orangeaporange
Time January 15, 2010 at 3:17 pm
Sometimes pornography (especially violent porn and really kinky porn that is found in some anime and comic books) can really mess with someones head and cause fettishes. He needs to control this with phsycological help or it could become addictive and dangerous. He can get help with sex addiction through counselling and many churches also offer it. He can become "normal" if he is willing to try.
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Live in a society filled with these guys (Japan), talk about some wierd shit!
Comment from Mimi S
Time January 15, 2010 at 3:40 pm
He might have read comic porn, and has a fetish for it now.
It could mean he’s gay.
Most sex comics are about gays.
He could be lying though, to cover something like maybe he has a small dick.
Just a thought.
Talk to him and ask him.
Talking is very important in a relationship.
Maybe it’s too kinky and might kill one of you.
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Comment from Kayleigh
Time January 15, 2010 at 3:50 pm
That’s a bit weird, Maybe hes that nervous he has to pretend its not real. I duno, but i would be very careful…If he wants it to be the same as it is in comic books, Sex seems very violent in comic books.
I suggest talking properly with him, tell him you love him and that you want to be with him but he needs to realise sex is for you too, and not just him. You need it to be ‘real’ Theres nothing bad with doing it the way he wants as long as he isnt over the top with the violence & you feel comftable with it.
If he doesnt listen or doesnt care how you feel, Move on. Tell him to get some help.
I hope you get things sorted.
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Comment from pink poodle
Time January 15, 2010 at 4:04 pm
Sex for men is an agressive dominate state, it is mormal to feel some agression during sex for both sexes. The real issue here is why does this person feel as if it is cartoonish? You claim he has a panic attack and freaks out when he does it in a normal way, but that is very vague as many people do all sorts of things that could be described as kind of violent before, during, and even after sex. You ask a good question about "what is he talking about" as it doesn’t seem that he knows either. There are many sociophyscological problems out there when it comes to the taboo of sex, have you asked him what he means when he states these things? Personally i would want to know what he means by it is too real, why he has a so called panic attack when he tries to do it in a normal way, and a more personal question for you, have you looked his name up on the sex offender web site?.. I don’t mean to be crass but there seems to be a great deal of emotional as well as physical abuse that could take place with this person and even though some forms of abuse are general, i think this is a little out of the ballpark and very possibly manipulation that you shoud be very careful around. I would be the first person to say that sex is not love, but it is a very strong form within attachment, as you are not a cartoon and very real and this other person views sex with you or generally as a comic book i am forced to wonder whether you are in danger! As far as your part is concerned why have you attached to a person that within your intimacy allows someone to twist your feelings and satisfactions into this very false and seemingly very lonely place? I am glad to hear that you are no longer seeing this person intimately and i am sorry for your loss and the deep hurt that these seperations bring about, but don’t you think you will be more fulfilled with someone who doesn’t make you feel these ways? Normal in my book is a transparency of feelings when connected to intimacy, it is the give and take that come with all good forms of relating, yes domination is a normal part of sex but not without compassion and sensitivity that should come naturally when loving during intimacy. Good journey, and sorry about the spelling spell checker is out.
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Kama sutra, Jung, sociology and emotion, Reay Tannahill sex in history ect……..
Comment from slmw38
Time January 15, 2010 at 4:47 pm
sounds like he is into s and m spank him and make him tell you he likes it. or dress up like zena and hog tie him
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Comment from Peach
Time January 15, 2010 at 2:29 pm
Like it is in comic books?
Maybe he means he just like to draw it, not do it.
lmao
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