My husband and I are getting ready to separate. I haven’t slept with him in 2 months. Is this wrong?
I do not want to sleep with him because well he is mean…..ok let’s be real. He is abusive. Really! The way he treats me has transferred to the bedroom. i.e. if he calls me a fat bitch during the day I find it hard to be with him sexually. So we are separating. Ok here is the scenario, I was sleeping in the bed, he was in the living room. He apparently came in while I was sleeping, turned on the light, and started putting his fingers in my vagina. This scared the sh** out of me because I was sleep. I told him to stop. He walks out and slams the door. I get 4 hours of belittling and badgering about how awful I am. I am still up with panic attacks and anxiety. We have a 1 and 3 year old. wtf…I am tired and will be tired for them tomorrow too. I can not have sex with him just to please him. It is my body and I do not want to have sex with him. I will be moving out to my new place soon. Is this wrong?
yeah he has been abusive for a long time. It scared the crap out of me. He is abusive always has been. I am definately getting the hell out of here asap. Tried to stay for my kids but it’s crazy. I’ve turned to some messed up stuff to try to calm the pain of all the abuse. Got to get up out of here.
What he’s putting you through is wrong and i don’t blame you for leaving.
My wife had a baby in october and we haven’t had sexual contact at all
since 2 months after conception because i understand how she feels and
the need for her to rest and care for our children.
He is obviously self centered and insensitive to basically attempt to rape
his partner for sexual gratification. He needs counselling at the very least.
If your only option is to leave then i say do it, for your well being.. xXx
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Comment from KingMan
Time February 19, 2010 at 5:04 pm
Your husbands a douche and does not deserve sex. You are completely within your rights to withhold it. Might I suggest making him a sandwich instead?
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Comment from tasha
Time February 19, 2010 at 5:47 pm
You are doing the completely right thing! Even though he’s your husband, he has no right to finger you without your permission and it sounds like he has no respect for you-your better off without him!
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Comment from wp06
Time February 19, 2010 at 6:20 pm
its NOT wrong at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i say move out as fast as you can && never go back to him…i dont care how many kids you have, you have to think of yourself too!!!! tell him if he put his hands on you again, you callin the cops!!! i do take it personal cuz my 2nd bf was abussive, wayyy more than youre sayin bout your husband..like the therapist was shocked how im still alive (that bad)…move on girl…put him on child support && dont everrr get back with him cuz they dont change
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Comment from Lynz
Time February 19, 2010 at 6:55 pm
He has problems. If he can’t respect you or your body, don’t sleep with him. He needs counseling. I’m sure he wouldn’t enjoy it if you walked in while he was sleeping and yanked on him. That’s so disrespectful. Maybe he has a sexual issue. Men get arrested for what he does. I guess he never thought of it that way.
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Comment from <3ItsAgirl!!!*
Time February 19, 2010 at 7:33 pm
IF you dont wanna have sex then you dont wanna have sex, and he needs to respect that! Have you tried talking to him about it? Oh heres a good one.. my hubby does the same thing to me some times(calling me names) .. so I do it right back to him. Catch him off guard.. he calls you a name.. just say well at least i dont have a small dic*. Dont let him make you fell bad.. make him feel bad..
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Comment from Gengi$
Time February 19, 2010 at 7:39 pm
What he’s putting you through is wrong and i don’t blame you for leaving.
My wife had a baby in october and we haven’t had sexual contact at all
since 2 months after conception because i understand how she feels and
the need for her to rest and care for our children.
He is obviously self centered and insensitive to basically attempt to rape
his partner for sexual gratification. He needs counselling at the very least.
If your only option is to leave then i say do it, for your well being.. xXx
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Comment from Holly L
Time February 19, 2010 at 8:18 pm
Honey why is it wrong, he’s a complete idiot and if he treats you like that he doesn’t deserve sex, and putting his fingers in you while you were ASLEEP, honey that’s just sick and wrong, you vcan’t let him get away with calling you a fat *****, the best thing to do is run a mile, get as far away from that bloke as possible with your children, he has harmed you physically and mentally, you relaly need to talk to someone about the anxiety and panic attacks, to be honest sweetie, you’re better off without him, and so are your kids, they’re only young, they don’t deserve to see this appaling behavior from their father towards their mother, LEAVE HIM, it’ll be better for you and the kids!!
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Comment from LillyRain
Time February 19, 2010 at 8:24 pm
married or not, by law, what he did is sexual abuse
You don’t need to have sex if you don’t want to
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Comment from Logan and Ella’s Mommy
Time February 19, 2010 at 4:22 pm
Why wouldn’t it be ok? You don’t want to have sex with some one who you are separating from. It’s always ok to not have sex if YOU do not want to have sex.
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