please help! My child is very anxious and sensitive. He been vomiting quite often when he fells disturbed.?
He is 5 and a very good child, but a bit anxious. He can get symthoms of panic attack for small things such as small cuts, band-aids, or things that he sees on TV. He has collapsed on the floor about three months ago just because he knocked slightly his hand. Today he had the unfortune to see a bit of a music video (a thing that was very innapropriate for the time of the day) that had a teenage girl throwing a knife and cutting off an arm of another member of the band. It’s indeed a very strong scene and I got in the living room just on time. He suddendly started to sweat, got very pale, nearly fainted and vomited. I know I’m a bit anxious myself around him and he’s my only child. My husband thinks that there is no big deal about it that he is just responding to my anxiety. I don’t know myself, I just do everything that I can to make my child happy. Please help!!
Have you actually talked to your child? If all you do is hug him and console him when this happens then that is only reaffirming his anxiety. You need to explain to him that it is only television and television can be pretend, etc. My boyfriend’s little boy was once afraid of the police because his grandmaw put a fear in him by saying "put on your seatbelt or the police man will take us to jail" so every time he saw the cops he would get very nervous and start getting upset, I had to explain to him that police men are our friends and are there to help us. You may need to do the same, tell your child that everyone gets cuts and that your body has a way of healing itself. Children are smarter than you think, they will pick up on your fears and make them their own, never exaggerate anything to them, always be honest and explain situations. You can tell them to be careful but don’t tell them all the possibilities of what COULD happen, that could really scare them and then they will be afraid to have new experiences because of all of the POSSIBLE dangers out there. If things don’t improve I would definitely take him to the doctor because now is the time to address his anxiety before he starts getting older and it is harder to reverse that. Also, I would definitely consider the fact that he may have a reaction to seeing the sight of blood. My boyfriend is 35 and a BIG muscular man, but if he sees blood he will almost pass out, it seems funny, but it is not funny to him….it is a real thing, some people are very sensitive to the sight of blood. We can’t even watch TV that has blood and gore, he will definitely turn his head or he starts getting dizzy.
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Comment from Megz
Time February 11, 2010 at 2:17 pm
You need to talk to your Dr about this!!
Seriously!!
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Comment from heathenchef1
Time February 11, 2010 at 2:54 pm
Having two young childen myself I can understand your concerns. Controlling what enters their enviroment is key and strict television control is key. As for the reactions you describe, they are certainly severe enough that I would go to the pediatrician and explore it thoroughly. Don’t put this off.
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Comment from addicted-to-koolaid
Time February 11, 2010 at 3:39 pm
The tv is too risky for him but at the same time he’ll have to get used to it or the real world is going to wear him down to bits. In the mean time i suggest he only be allowed to watch thing that you’ve pre screened. Like dvd’s and so on. Or the LP local public broadcasting channel with dragon tales and kiddy shows bc that channel never has bad shows on it. For his nervous ness, you could try explaing to him that its not real. And for the small cuts he may have that thing about blood, some ppl faint at the sight of blood so you would need to look into that.
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Comment from Rebecca W
Time February 11, 2010 at 3:50 pm
Its true that children do reflect the parents attitudes and feelings, but this seems to me to be more authentic than that. I think you need to see your pediatrician first and they should be able to refer you if needed. The thing is you don;t need to panic because your sons not in imediate danger, but you should try to help him with this because a panic condition is very hard for a child to deal with on his own.
Before you go to your doctor try to record some ffotage of your son;s episodes because we all know how children are perfectly healthy as soon as we take them to a doctor, so getting a video will show the condition in its true form and also be helpful to you because sometimes it is hard to say what you mean when you are on the spot like that.
So to recap, don’t panic, but do make an appointment with your sons pediatrician, and be prepared when you do see the doctor.
Best of luck
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Comment from musclegurl4u
Time February 11, 2010 at 4:30 pm
Have you actually talked to your child? If all you do is hug him and console him when this happens then that is only reaffirming his anxiety. You need to explain to him that it is only television and television can be pretend, etc. My boyfriend’s little boy was once afraid of the police because his grandmaw put a fear in him by saying "put on your seatbelt or the police man will take us to jail" so every time he saw the cops he would get very nervous and start getting upset, I had to explain to him that police men are our friends and are there to help us. You may need to do the same, tell your child that everyone gets cuts and that your body has a way of healing itself. Children are smarter than you think, they will pick up on your fears and make them their own, never exaggerate anything to them, always be honest and explain situations. You can tell them to be careful but don’t tell them all the possibilities of what COULD happen, that could really scare them and then they will be afraid to have new experiences because of all of the POSSIBLE dangers out there. If things don’t improve I would definitely take him to the doctor because now is the time to address his anxiety before he starts getting older and it is harder to reverse that. Also, I would definitely consider the fact that he may have a reaction to seeing the sight of blood. My boyfriend is 35 and a BIG muscular man, but if he sees blood he will almost pass out, it seems funny, but it is not funny to him….it is a real thing, some people are very sensitive to the sight of blood. We can’t even watch TV that has blood and gore, he will definitely turn his head or he starts getting dizzy.
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Comment from Mom
Time February 11, 2010 at 4:54 pm
You should really talk to your pediatrician about this, and possibly get a referral for a therapist. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with your child per say, but he is definitely abnormally anxious. I do think children respond to their parents anxieties, but this really goes beyond it. A therapist may be able to give your son some tools to help him cope when he is feeling anxious. Good luck!!
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Comment from Just_Me
Time February 11, 2010 at 1:39 pm
then watch careful for what he sees in tv mommy.
id take him to the doc. i dont think it normal for a kid to faint or have panic attack like that. he still very young.take him to his doc and see what is going on w.him.
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